CRIPPLED BY THE SYSTEM

WITH THE WAY THE SYSTEM IS GOING I FOR SEE ALOT OF REDUCED FARE PASSES AND HANDICAP PERMITS FOR NONCUSTODIAL PARENTS. REALLY WHAT THE SYSTEM IS DOING IS HANDICAPPING US AND NOT ALLOWING US TO BE ABLE TO PROVIDE FORE OUR CHILDREN. HOW DOES ONE PROVIDE A MEAL FOR THEIR CHILD AND SAY NO ITS OK I DON'T HAVE TO EAT. YOU'RE WRONG IF YOU DON'T EAT AT SOME POINT IN TIME YOU WILL BECOME SO SICK THAT YOUR CHILD WONT BE ABLE TO EAT EITHER. WAY  MUST STAY STRONG AND OF WELL MIND IN ORDER TO MAKE SURE THAT OUR CHILDREN STAY AS NOURISHED AS US. UNFORTUNATELY THE SYSTEM COULD CARE LESS WHERE YOUR NEXT MEAL COMES FROM, CAN YOU PAY YOUR BASIC BILLS, DO YOU HAVE A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD THAT YOU CAN CALL HOME, CAN YOU GO TO THE GROCERY STORE AND BUY A DECENT AMOUNT OF FOOD THAT WILL CARRY YOU THROUGH THE WEEK. NONE OF THESE CONCERNS ARE TAKEN INTO CONSIDERATION WHEN ATTACKING THE NONCUSTODIAL PARENTS. THAT'S WHY ALOT OF FATHERS AND MOTHERS ARE RUNNING FROM THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING IN THEIR CHILD'S LIFE. NOW THE CHILD SUFFERS BECAUSE THIS "CHILD SUPPORT MONSTER" IS BEING DANGLED OVER THEIR HEAD AND THEY DON'T SEE ANY OTHER WAY OUT. IT ALSO ATTACKS US MENTALLY WE CONTEMPLATE OK HOW CAN THIS PERSON BE TAKEN OUT AND PERMANENTLY OUT OF MY LIFE WHICH ULTIMATELY GUESS WHAT ONLY PERSON REALLY AFFECTED IS YOUR CHILD. WHY ISN'T THE SYSTEM PULLING TOGETHER TO LOOK OUT FOR THE BEST INTEREST OF ALL PARTIES INVOLVED. HOW CAN THEY CONSIDER THAT THE ONLY CONCERN IS THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD. I MEAN HELL ITS CALLED FAMILY COURT NOT ADOLESCENT COURT. THEY SHOULD BE LOOKING AT THE FAMILY FINANCES ON BOTH SIDES AND ALL INCOMES BE TAKEN INTO CONSIDERATION. ESPECIALLY WHEN CUSTODIAL PARENTS GO AND APPLY FOR OTHER OUTSIDE INCOME SUCH AS SSI, WELFARE, FOOD STAMPS, RECEIVE VETERANS BENEFITS, ETC ETC. I MEAN DOES ANYONE ELSE AGREE WITH ME LIKE DOES YOUR KIDS EVEN NEED THAT MUCH MONEY A MONTH AND DOESN'T IT SEEM LIKE THE CUSTODIAL PARENT IS GETTING OVER LIKE A PHAT RAT. WHERES THE JUSTICE IN THAT. WHY DOESN'T THE HEARING EXAMINER FAIL TO SEE THAT SOMEWHERE DOWN THE LINE THEY ARE DOING MORE HARM THAN GOOD BY ENFORCING THESE RULES AND REGULATIONS THAT FORCE THE NONCUSTODIAL PARENT INTO POVERTY WHILE THE NONCUSTODIAL PARENT WALKS AROUND WITH ALL THEIR NEEDS MET AND THE CHILDREN NEVER SEE OR BENEFIT FROM THE SACRIFICES THEIR PARENT IS BEING FORCED INTO. WE NONCUSTODIAL PARENTS POPULAR TO OTHER BELIEFS LOVE OUR CHILDREN AND WHAT THE BEST FOR THEM MAYBE EVEN BETTER THAN WE HAD NUT WITH THESE LAWS THE WAY THEY ARE NONCUSTODIAL PARENTS ARE MISSING OUT ON THE JOY OF BEING PARENTS BECAUSE WE ARE DROWNING IN A GLASS OF WATER AND NO ONE IS THROWING US A LIFESAVER.

SO YOU THINK YOU HAVE THE UPPER HAND?

SO YOU THINK YOU HAVE THE UPPER HAND NOW YOU CALLING THE SHOTS? I DON'T THINK SO. I MAY BE SUFFERING AND GOING THROUGH ALOT OF TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS BUT I'M STILL THE ONE HOLDING THE CARDS IN MY HANDS. YOU'RE NOTHING TO ME, YOU'RE ROBBING ME BLIND AND THE WORST PART IS THAT MY CHILDREN DONT EVEN GET TO SEE A DIME. WHERE DO YOU GET OFF THINKING YOU HAVE THE RIGHTS OVER MY HARD EARNED MONEY? I'M THE ONE THAT GOT UP WENT TO WORK DEALT WITH THE YOUTH AND CO WORKERS WHILE YOU SAT AT HOME COLLECTING WELFARE. YOU'RE 52 YEARS OLD NO PENSION NO LIFE NO FAMILY TO TURN TO JUST A MISERABLE HUMAN BEING. I LOST ALL RESPECT FOR YOU WHEN YOU COULD WALK INTO A COURT ROOM AND STAND THERE PROUDLY SAYING YES I'M ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR BODY YOU CAN WORK BUT YOU'RE JUST TOO DAMN LAZY TO GO GET A JOB. YOU DONT DESERVE ANYBODY'S RESPECT. WHILE I BUST MY ASS TO MAKE A LIVING TO SUPPORT MY CHILDREN YOU FIGURED YOU WOULD CAPITALIZE ON MY BLESSING OF HAVING A JOB. JUST WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? THIS SYSTEM IS GEARED TO MAKE SURE THE NON CUSTODIAL PARENT SUFFERS. HEARING EXAMINER LOOKED AT ME WHILE I CRIED AND SAID HEY JUST FIND A CHEAPER APARTMENT, I LOOKED AT HER AND WAS FORCED TO HOLD MY CHOICE WORDS, BUT MY LAWYER SAID BUT YOUR HONOR SHE LIVES IN HOUSING. SHE SHRUGGED HER SHOULDERS AND SAID WELL THERES NOTHING I CAN DO. HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE YOU MADE A DECISION JUST CHANGE IT MAKE A DECISION THAT WILL BENEFIT BOTH ME AND MY CHILDREN, BUT SHE SAID NEXT CASE AND LEFT MY CASE EXACTLY HOW IT WAS SO I REMAIN  THE SAME VICTIM OF THE NYS CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM. ENSLAVED BY THE LAWS THAT SAY WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR WELLING BEING ITS ALL ABOUT THE KIDS NOW. REALLY YOU SAT THERE AND LET THAT WOMAN RULE ON A CASE THAT SHOULD HAVE NEVER CAME BEFORE HER BECAUSE I WAS NEVER A DEAD BEAT MOM. I SENT YOU MONEY AND CLOTHES AND SHOES. MADE SURE MY DAUGHTERS HAIR WAS DONE BY MAKING SURE YOU HAD EXTRA CASH TO TAKE HER. BUT NOOOOOO THAT WASN'T ENOUGH. YOU NEEDED CIGARETTE MONEY, GAS MONEY, FEMALE ENTERTAINMENT MONEY MOVIE MONEY ETC. WHILE MY CHILDREN GET NOTHING BECAUSE EVEN FOR XMAS YOU GAVE THEM GIFTS FROM AN AGENCY. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF BUT I KNOW YOU'RE NOT. IT DOESN'T EVEWN PHASE YOU TO HEAR HOW BAD I'M DOING YOU ACT SURPRISED LIKE YOU HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. WELL IM HERE TO TELL YOU NO YOU DONT HAVE THE UPPER HAND I DO, IM CALLING THE SHOTS ON THE TERMS OF MYYYYY DIVORCE FROM YOU. IM TAKING MY LIFE PRIDE AND DIGNITY BACK. I SAT BACK LAST YEAR AND FELT SORRY FOR MYSELF CRYING ABOUT EVERYTHING BELIEVING THAT I WAS BEING PUNISHED FOR SACRIFICING MY LOVE FROM MY CHILDREN AND ALLOWING MYYYYY CHILDREN TO LIVE WITH YOU, BUT THIS YEAR ITS MY YEAR I'M TAKING CONTROL OF MY SITUATION. GOD LET ME SEE THAT I WAS FIGHTING ALONE SO OF COURSE I WASN'T GOING TO WIN. NOW GOD IS BEHIND ME SO NATURALLY I WILL BE THE WINNER. SO YOU THINK YOU HAVE THE UPPER HAND? I'M HERE TO TELL YOU THE ANSWER IS QUITE SIMPLY NOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

NEW DIRECTIONS COMING IN 2012

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 2011 WAS A ROUGH YEAR FOR ME. I WAS ATTACKED FOR EVERY ANGLE . ITS AMAZING THAT I EVEN MADE IT THROUGH INTO 2012. WITH THAT BEING SAID I HAVE RECOVERED FROM ALL ATTACKS AND IM BACK TO RECLAIM WHATS MINE. NO MORE MS NICE GAL. SO YOU THOUGHT IT WAS COOL TO MESS WITH ME ATTACK MY CHARACTER AND ASSASSINATE MY PRIDE WELL GUESS WHAT I HAVE REGAINED MY STRENGTH AND IM TAKING THE WORLD AND WHAT MINE BY STORM. I WILL NOT BE ALLOWING ANYONE TO BE WALKING ALL OVER ME BECAUSE IM NOT A DOOR MAT. IM RUTH THE WOMAN GOD PLACED ON THIS EARTH TO SHOW EVERYONE HOW WONDERFUL AND MERCIFUL HE IS. GOD HAS PULLED ME OUT OF THE STORM AND HAS GIVEN ME THE TOOLS I NEED TO FIGHT SO IN 2012 THERE WILL BE CHANGES, I WILL BE CHASING AND ACCOMPLISHING MY GOALS TO BE FINANCIAL INDEPENDENT AGAIN. I WILL GET MY LIFE BACK AND WILL REGAIN POSSESSION OF WHAT MINE. YOU MAY HAVE WON THE BATTLE BUT I WILL WIN THE WAR. THIS YEAR IS MY YEAR TO SHINE. I WILL BE LOOKING FOR WAYS TO EMPOWER EVERY SINGLE INDIVIDUAL OUT THERE THAT IS SUFFERING THE "INJUSTICE OF THE CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM"